Thursday, July 7, 2011

relationships do or do not change a person

Recently I had a very interesting conversation with a good friend. After a disastrous break-up, he is finally over her and he is feeling well and strong. At least this is what I felt coming from him. But one thing which really caught my attention throughout our conversation is that he believes that after 9 months with that girl, he is not changed at all. He strongly believes that she did not influence him at all during their relationship. Apart from the awful break-up, he truly believes that nothing has changed while he was with her.

This made me think... Is it possible that after 9 months with a person (in my opinion, long enough for one to leave a print in one's life), there is absolutely nothing in one's behaviour to remind of the ex-partner?  Is it possible to go through relationships without being changed by the partner whatsoever? And if this is possible, does this make you the stronger "half" that is changing the partner? How can one cope with such a responsibility?

When it comes to relationships, change or be changed - which one is the less painful and more rewarding situation?

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