Life is full of compromises. Love is full of compromises. I see these compromises everywhere. People give up what they are like to please the others. Be it parents or partner, people make compromises. The amount of compromises they make depends on two things. First, how strong their character is and second how strong is the character of the ones they come in contact with.
"You dress inappropriate for your age", "You ought to lose weight", "Your hair is a mess", "Is this how you want to go out?", "How long are you going to watch TV?", "When are you going to run that errand for me?" are some of the questions people would hear from the others one time or another. Why is that if we come to suit perfectly other people's needs, we bring happiness to all the society? I mean, as long as we do not go hurting people on purpose, we should be able to live our lives the way we want. We should be able to dress the way we feel comfortable, not the way the others think we should dress. We should be able to keep all the small habits and things that make us happy.
Of course we should take into consideration other people's needs, but why is it that we have to compromise ourselves for them? I mean, as long as our habits do not hurt them, why should we please the people by giving them up and slowly becoming someone else?
Is the same in love. People change after the other's taste. . If you listen to love songs or watch romance films (or even Disney's cartoons) you will discover a lot of clichés. He loves her so much he would do anything for her. She is the perfect person in the world. They are superb looking and they do not need to change anything they do. Is it just me or this sells a false image of how a relationship is like in real life? Why they do not need to compromise anything? What happens to the people that do not have the looks? Why are they doomed to be the laughed at and to become the bad persons? Of course that in a relationship (of any kind) you have to take into consideration the other person(s), but when taking into consideration their needs ad forgetting about yours, some alarm bells are bound to start ringing.
It's time people should understand. Being constrained by the others will bring a lot of frustration. People should be able to accept the persons around them the way they are. Being yourself and being the way you want to be means being happy. When you are happy you radiate happiness to the others as well. Besides we should remember that we should not do to the others what we don't want the others do to us.
Why give up your habits for the others, when those particular habits do not hurt them? And more importantly what happened to "I love you just the way you are?"...
