Living in a total different country and coming back to what was my world, before knowing the outside world, made me think of bonds. Of course every one of us has bonds: friends, family, acquaintances, teachers, colleagues and so on. But... how easy to break are these bonds?
Teachers and acquaintances are easy to leave behind. We do it very fast and seldom the feeling we have is actually sorrow. About the acquaintances, is that you meet them, enjoy (or not) being in their presence, and then life throws you on different paths, so you might as well never meet them ever again. And there are those teachers/professors that touch our lives in a more vivid way. We will always remember them, be it for them being very good, or very bad, or very smart and so on. There are also the ones we keep in touch with. Those are the best. I mean... Imagine... a professor wants to keep in touch with his/her students! There is a nice feeling about these persons. You have the feeling that you actually made a difference, compared with the other students they will not keep in touch with. Is hard to feel special for someone. Isn't it?
Colleagues... There are those persons who you do not really want to meet outside the workplace/school. You are just not on the same wavelength. There is nothing else to talk about but school or teachers, and when those subjects run out, you are just left with a dumb smile on your face and ask, rather embarrassed, "so... how have you been lately?". I have a friend that was great to talk to at the company, but outside the office was difficult to talk to. Why? Well... I have noticed this: there are two types of persons (this regards only the persons that are able to use the internet): the ones you can talk to on the internet and have a great conversation, while in the real life you do not know how to deal with them; and then there are those with whom is very difficult to talk over the internet, while in real life you have a great chemistry with.
Yes, social media over the internet can be very useful to keep in touch. But what do you do when the persons you cannot talk to over the internet are close friends or family? The ones that you really really miss and are eager to hear from?
Concerning friends and family... While you are away you will find out who is really your friend and who is just curious/jealous about what you do. In the beginning it feels like severing these bonds is frickin' difficult. You have this sorrowful feeling about leaving, leaving them behind and you might even feel bad about their feeling of sorrow for your departure (though it might not be so bad for them as you might think...). And because you care so deeply about them, you might just end up comparing everything to the way the act/think and so on. And then you get used to being far. And when you come home you are shocked about how everything is. Maybe things changed, but you also changed and in the end you realize that going away, even for a short period of time, means severing some bonds. How badly they are severed depends on how much you and they change.
How easy is to sever such bonds?
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